Busy mothers can really struggle setting intentional spiritual goals, because it can be difficult to keep them and follow through. As a mother, we often face times of self doubt, we neglect self care and worship and allow ourselves to succumb to the needs and demands of what everyone else around us needs. We have talked in past articles about how to embrace life as a mother, and also how to seek knowledge as a mother. In this article, we will talk about how you can actually set goals and boost your imaan and blessings by setting intentional spiritual goals, in shaa Allah!
Tips on Setting Intentional Spiritual Goals and Keeping them:
You can be connected to Allah in everything you do throughout the day with this one simple word, intention. Whether it’s cooking, cleaning, changing a diaper or running to the shops…all of these can be acts of worship that you will be rewarded for. Know for sure that you are doing a great job, one that Allah has written for you. Always keep this hadith in mind while you are running around the house:
Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,
“Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. Surely, every one of you is a shepherd and responsible for his flock.” Source: Sahih Bukhari 6719, Sahih Muslim 1829
It would be very hard NOT to find something in the following hadith qudsy that can connect you with Allah in such a beautiful way, in shaa Allah.
“Allah the Almighty said in a hadith qudsy: ‘I am as My servant thinks I am . I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm’s length, I draw near to him a fathom’s length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.”
It’s the easiest thing for busy people to do. Whether you’re standing in a line, hanging the washing, feeding the baby, cooking, or driving there is nothing to stop you reaping heaps of rewards all day long. Not only will you get the rewards but it will have a very big impact on the state of your heart and the rest of your worship. It will also become like a protective shield for you. If you are in a continuous state of zikr it is very hard to have bad thoughts not to mention acting on them. Choose the most beloved zikr to your heart and keep your tongue busy.
Again this is so easy for us to do but many of us forget about it unless facing a calamity. Making dua’a is establishing a very special relationship with Allah (swt) it’s not just for when we want something. It is also talking to Allah and always knowing and feeling He is the closest one to us. The place of dua’a is so high to Allah, that the Prophet (peace be upon him) had said:
“Nothing is more honourable to Allah the Most High than du`a.” [Sahih al-Jami` no.5268]. He also said: “The most excellent worship is du`a.” [Sahih Al-Jami` no. 1133]
I know this is a difficult one especially for tired mums, but even every once in a while will have a great effect on your heart. Praying to Allah while everyone is asleep gives you that feeling of a close connection that you can miss throughout your busy day. Even if it’s 10 minutes before fajr try as much as possible to get up for it. Or even pray it before you sleep (any time after Isha’ prayer).
Abu Sa’eed al Khudri (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah’s Messenger as saying:
“Every servant of Allah who observes fast for a day in the way of Allah, Allah would remove, because of this day, his face farther from the Fire (of Hell) to the extent of seventy years’ distance.” [Saheeh Muslim].
I find fasting extra is not only about the reward but more so about cleansing the soul. You feel your soul becoming stronger than your desires all day long. It trains you so you naturally become stronger in staying away from sins and resisting worldly desires. Best part is that it doesn’t take any extra time to do.
Sadaqah (giving charity).
Giving charity is not only about the immense rewards but also the purification of the soul. You are again making yourself stronger by resisting your worldly desire of holding on to the money as oppose to spending it. And once again it’s something that can easily be done with your busy schedule.
“Take, [O Muúammad], from their wealth a charity by which you purify them and cause them increase.” [Surah At-Tawba , verse 103].
This is a very important form of worship that we may not always pay attention to. Just reflecting about life, death, how time passes so quickly, sickness, and all other happenings can have an immense impact on our faith. When we are wrapped up in everything it can be hard to see why we can’t just be like everyone else and enjoy the same things they do. But when you truly reflect on our life and its true essence it becomes easier to stay steadfast with Allah’s will.
We must strive really hard to work on setting intentional spiritual goals and keep ourselves from remaining occupied for far too long. May Allah provide us all with Baraka and sincerity in every deed we do.
So how about you, is there something that you do that helps you set and achieve your spiritual goals? We would love to hear, in shaa Allah!
About the Author
Halah is the founder of The Hearts of Light and mother to three beautiful children, masha allah. When she is not mothering or making beautifully inspirational creations, she enjoys writing to inspire sisters. Please make dua for the health of sister Halah and her family.