Previously, we talked about how mothers can feel that to an extent their lives have to come to an end after having kids. We talked about some key points to keep in mind to be able to shift this mentality and live life to the fullest. Now, we will start giving some practical tips on how to keep up your spirituality/religious goals with the little time you have. We will focus here on seeking knowledge first.
I find that a big part of keeping your spirit alive and your connection with Allah strong is the continuous seeking of religious knowledge. In addition, it’s very important that even though you may only be able to do little in this regard, try to be as structured and organized as possible. Listening to a random youtube lesson here and there will benefit you but your development will not be consistent and can be filled with gaps. On top of that a lot of the time what happens is that you get an emotional boost but you do not gain the sound knowledge you need to build on and rectify your life according to. In my humble opinion, you should make the following topics a priority in your endeavour to seeking knowledge as a mother:
- Studying the word of Allah. There truly is nothing more inspiring, motivating or beneficial for this life and the next than the study of the Allah’s words. Truly understanding the words of Allah and applying them in our life should be the priority of all muslims.
- Tawheed (the correct creed). Keeping the oneness of Allah in mind will benefit you greatly in the firmness of your faith. It also helps greatly in understanding where you may be falling into smaller shirk without realizing.
- Fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence and rulings). This knowledge will help you understand how to govern your life according to Allah’s rulings. It will also give you great insight and appreciation of the beauty of Islam and help keep your faith steadfast towards the war waged daily against Islam and its rulings.
- Recitation. The least we can do out of respect and honour to Allah’s words is to know how to recite them properly. In fact, doing so is an obligation upon us. Not only that, but the correct recitation of the Quran will automatically increase the level of benefit we get from our recitation whether it be spiritual benefit or a deeper level of understanding.
Obviously there are other branches of knowledge but especially as a mother I find these to be the most beneficial for myself and my family. To be able to seek knowledge in the above fields in a structured way I would suggest the following:
- Set up a plan to do a certain amount of a certain topic on a periodic basis. For example, you can set a plan of 1 hour a week broken up to 15 min a day. The idea is you set some time aside for this activity.
- The best part of this goal is that you don’t need to set aside exclusive time to do it. You can do it while you’re cooking, cleaning, driving, playing with your kids in the park…etc. Make sure to have planned out what you are going to listen to for the week and have it available on any device you carry with you. I like to keep a set of headphones in my bag at all times so I can listen to my lectures on the go whenever I want.
- After you have figured when you will listen and how, it’s now time to determine what you will listen to. As I mentioned before the best is to have a structure for your learning so you can build on it soundly and also relay this knowledge to your family. You can either determine a certain topic or give yourself a specific time period to learn about something before moving on to something else. Or you can learn about different topics simultaneously. The main idea is that you have structure and a clear plan so each part builds on the previous and they are not just random topics all over the place.
I have found some wonderful resources for comprehensive and structured learning, and I’d like to share them with you:
- Islamic Online University (Founded by Dr Bilal Philips). They offer short courses and diplomas completely free. They also offer bachelors and masters degrees for a very low cost (approximately 100-150 USD a semester). They don’t only offer Islamic courses but also other beneficial courses such as financing, psychology, education and IT. Each of the aforementioned subject areas are taught with an islamic perspective. An amazing course I found especially for mothers was child psychology. It handles a child since birth right up to puberty. It gives advice and guidelines on how to handle the child’s moral development, physical development, faith development and learning development. All these aspects are dealt with in the light of Islamic teachings along with modern science. In addition to the great and sound knowledge they provide, their website is really helpful. Study options are flexible; you can do as little or as much as you like. They also have a great app that you can use to access lectures on the go.
- Bayyinnah Institute (Founded by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan). I found this to be a great resource to learn and understand the Quran in an easy and flexible way. Brother Nouman has a wonderful way of explaining the Quran. He goes through the major available tafseers and does a great job in giving you a summarized, concise explanation. Basically he does all the heavy lifting so you don’t have to.
I hope this was of some benefit to you. Stay tuned to this series to learn about how you can achieve your spiritual goals in spite of your hectic schedules in sha Allah!
About the Author
Halah is the founder of The Hearts of Light and mother to three beautiful children, masha allah. When she is not mothering or making beautifully inspirational creations, she enjoys writing to inspire sisters. Please make dua for the health of sister Halah and her family.