Now we will get down to the nitty gritty in this article, as Ramadan is fast approaching, in shaa allah. We established from the first two articles that your main focus should be the state of your heart. Heaps of worship with no true affect on your heart will have little value in the long run. Before we get to the practical tips please try and always keep these golden rules in mind. Stick them on your fridge if you have to.
Have you missed the first two parts of the series?
Use These Golden Rules As Your Guide
Rule 1 This Ramadan you are competing with YOU not anyone else. Your aim is to better yourself and do better this Ramadan than you have ever done your whole life.
Rule 2 The fruits lie in quality not quantity.
Rule 3 A little that you can sustain and keep up with is heaps better than a lot you can’t follow through with. That includes the worship you do in Ramadan. Make sure your goals are realistic and attainable and ask Allah to help you achieve them.
Rule 4 Without a clear plan in mind you are planning to fail. So make sure you make a plan no matter how basic or small.
Rule 5 Every single second counts in Ramadan, it’s an open field filled with reward that can change your life forever.
Rule 6 The goals you set up this Ramadan are goals for life. This Ramadan marks a new you.
How To Apply These Rules
So what can you do if you are stressed for time and busy like crazy? You will find that the points we will mention here are mostly very simple to implement but they are not easy. Meaning that you won’t need heaps amount of time but you will need will and determination. Make sure to ask Allah to give you the strength and perseverance you need.
Remember we mentioned how important the state of our heart is, the following actions are all actions of the heart and in shaa allah you will benefit immensely from it.
Make the intention before Ramadan to forgive anyone who has upset you. Clear your heart from anger, jealousy, pride, and the like. Do it with the intention that Allah will accept you and forgive your sins in Ramadan.
Set your goals for Ramadan and make the intention that if you have more time you will do more. Allah will reward you for your intentions even if you can’t. Another example of this is that if you want to give in charity but don’t have the money, you can make the intention that you would give more if you had more. Allah in shaa allah will reward as if you have paid that money out.
Make a pact with yourself that this Ramadan you will work hard in making Allah your number 1 priority in life. That He will be number 1 in your heart and will become before anything else. To do this you need to work hard on letting go of all those sins and desires that take you away from Allah.
Reflect and Remember by sitting with yourself quietly and reflect, remember all the sins you did last year. After that, make istighfar and ask for Allah’s forgiveness and in shaa allah, this Ramadan will wipe all of your sins away.
Celebrate The Quran Everyday
The month of Ramadan is a month to celebrate the Quran, so above everything else make sure that Quran in your number 1 priority. You want to make a relationship with Allah’s words that you can build on throughout your life and one that will vouch for you after your death. So what can you do:
Make sure to read some of the Quran every day, even if it’s just 1 verse and be sure you are reading with reflection. Read the verse with its meaning. Reflect on the verse, understand it and implement it in your life.
If you are commuting to work or a study place, if you are cooking or working around the house make part of that time where you have Quran playing in the background. If you don’t understand Arabic listen to it with its translation.
If possible, add in a time where you listen to lessons on the Quran. I highly recommend Nouman Ali Khan’s lectures on YouTube. Your heart will literally melt from the beauty of the Allah’s words.
Last but not least, try and memorize that one verse a day or more if you can. Don’t belittle what memorizing the Quran can do for your life. It will fill your heart with so much faith and peace it’s hard to describe.
12 Simple Acts To Earn Blessings During Ramadan
- While you are working around the house or running after the kids keep your tongue busy as much as possible. Say zikr as much as you can throughout the day. The blessings and rewards from saying zikr are countless. Two of the best types are sending salawat to the prophet (may peace be upon him) and istighfar.
- Make sure to get rid of distractions and sources of sin. This doesn’t take time but it does take will. No TV, no games, no Facebook unless to benefit, no chit chatting on the phone for no reason, no excessive cooking, no backbiting. Basically no time wasters, time is scarce as it is.
- Get extra resources for your kids in Ramadan to keep them entertained. For example, new toys, arts and crafts, new beneficial apps, etc.
- Praying taraweeh prayer is one of the beauties of Ramadan. But most of us mums can’t get to a mosque to pray which is totally fine. Pray at home and you can actually double the benefit by reading your daily portion of the Quran while you are praying. So if you don’t get time during the day to read Quran, do it while you’re praying. You are allowed to read from the Quran in non obligatory prayers. If you have time and are praying the sunan prayers you can actually read the Quran in them throughout your day. Don’t forget you can be accounted for praying taraweeh even if it’s just two rakaat.
- If you don’t have time or find it difficult to pray all the sunan prayers. Try and at least pray salat al duha, it’s like giving charity for all the bones in your body and salat al witr after Al Isha’. The prophet (peace be upon him) stressed strongly on this prayer and never left it even while travelling.
- Giving charity can be as easy as making a donation online. Meaning it will not take any time. Try and set up an amount to give out every day no matter how small. Small deeds that continue are better than big deeds that don’t. You don’t know on which day Allah will look at you with mercy and forgive your sins for it.
An idea for Charity: Support The Hope Nursery & Orphanage in Turkey & Syria that provides stability for children who have had everything ripped away through war. 30 Days For Hope is a Ramadan ebook and planner packed full of recipes, daily action guides, motivational articles and more. All proceeds are donated to The Hope Nursery in shaa allah. Read more and buy your copy HERE.
- This is an act of the heart but I wanted to write about separately because it’s such a big deal. Every single act you do throughout your day can be an act of worship with this one simple act of the heart. Washing, cooking, running after the kids, shopping, everything can all be sources of great reward. Don’t lose yourself each day and just go through the motions. Take a breath and think to yourself why am I doing this? Talk to Allah and say to Him, “I am doing this for your sake ya Allah. I am cooking, cleaning, shopping and doing these things to take care of my family , to take care of my responsibility and duty as I was taught to do by our prophet (peace be upon him).”
- Making dua’a. One of the treasures of Ramadan is that our dua’as are accepted more than any other time throughout the year. Make a list of approx 10 things you want in your life before Ramadan. Ask for those 10 things in every single prayer, in every single sujood, while you are in your car, working around the house, at iftar. Allah willing, the next Ramadan will not come unless Allah has answered all your prayers.
- Feed another person. Now talk about gaining double reward with hardly any effort. If you are able to feed another fasting person you will get the reward of their fasting without moving an inch. If you haven’t got the resources to get to people yourself donate to a mosque, or an organization that does online or offline.
- No matter how little time you have try your upmost best not to miss fajr. After you eat suhoor try and pray at least 2 rakaat and then salat alfajr. It will give you Baraka and energy for the whole day ahead you wouldn’t have otherwise.
- Da’wah. Simple ideas that take hardly any time. Make the intention you are doing this for the sake of Allah to help show people how beautiful Islam is. Reach out to your neighbours, co-workers, your kids’ teachers, or even strangers. Get something small, maybe a packet of dates, and give it to them and tell them you are celebrating Ramadan and you want to share that joy with them. You never know who will be affected by such a simple act. You may find on the day of Judgement that all the good deeds of another person are put on your scale.
- Try to make time to make your close and extended family happy. Even if you don’t have much time, maybe send them a small gift like a greeting card. Talk to them on the phone more. Make dua’a for them which is essentially the best gift you can give anyone.
Rest Assured That Allah Knows
Don’t you think Allah knows your pain that you can’t do what you want to do? That your life is filled with distractions that you can hardly breathe? Do you not think that Allah will be fair to you? The pain in your heart for not being able to do much may equal to Allah much more than heaps of worship that have caused pride in the heart.
Allah has chosen you to be a mother. He has chosen you to take on this heavy weight. Do you think He does this for any reason except He loves you? Motherhood is a ticket to Jannah if done right. You have the opportunity that all your children’s good deeds from fasting, praying, giving charity, making dawah, and so much more, will be on your scales on the day of Judgment in shaa allah.
Do you think Allah doesn’t see you or hear you when you wake up in the middle of the night in the freezing cold to feed your baby, when you can hardly open your eyes the next day because of it? Trust in Allah, love Him and trust Him and never despair. He loves you more than anyone on this planet ever will. Talk to Him, be with Him and Allah willing you will have the best Ramadan you have ever had.
I ask Allah that He gives us all a chance to see this wonderful month and it’s the time Allah will write our names as the dwellers of paradise and forgive our sins.
The next article is about cooking in Ramadan, you don’t want to miss it, so stay tuned insha’Allah.
About the Author
Halah is the founder of The Hearts of Light and mother to three beautiful children, masha allah. When she is not mothering or making beautifully inspirational creations, she enjoys writing to inspire sisters. Please make dua for the health of sister Halah and her family.